Our desire shaping our work life balance

We often hear this phrase from people around on “Work-Life Balance”. So many motivational videos & books are available to guide us on same or similar topic, although we all know the answers still we keep on searching the easiest route to strike out the balance. 

Is it like if our desires have grown up so fast that we have forgotten the rule of “keep things simple”? With whom exactly are we competing? The Social circle or ourselves. We surely are becoming better version of ourselves but the question is, at what price?

Let us rewind few years, when we started our career with way too smaller salaries & lot of happiness where we all used to strike a balance our days of the month with the salary balance at each passing day. It used to be Rs.1000/day in 2nd week and turned out to be Rs.200/day by- end of 3rd week & sometimes you must have helped your friend to survive in last few days of the month with the balance amount. As the time passed, workload increased with each promotion & career became “the priority” & “The life” became DESIRE. A bucket full of different desires with no condition applied.

One belief on work-life states that this is the right time to invest yourself into work as it will make you grow faster & the corporate is striking a balance for employees by giving Saturday off but with condition applied. A working Saturday we all have experienced due to meetings, which are on MONDAYS. A Sunday, when you were on transit & yes with no comp off given, you must have experienced stretch of working days for 2 weeks. We do adjust our personal things for official engagements. Now here is the question I have, if I have a personal engagement on board for 3-4 days why can’t my professional life adjust. Why still there is a timeline hanging on my face at the same time giving me stress during my leaves. Where exactly are we heading to, Are we not becoming more impatient, stressed & irritated affecting our mental health with each passing day.

The simple concept of being living which we all have learnt during our 1st standard that living things are movable, can breathe & has life. The gift of being human with ability of think & decide? Are we not compromising that gift because of >6 digits salaries in our account.

Just a question, we all need to ask ourselves that are we just existing or living.

Attain balance in life via Response-Ability

 

Ok google. Help me with word “Responsibility”.

Google- Responsibility: Overview, Examples, Similar or opposite words, Pronunciation.

Google- Responsibility means a duty to deal with something so that “it is your fault” if something goes wrong.

As I ponder this, a question lingers in my mind - if things go right, does the responsibility still rest upon us? Who defines these responsibilities and how do they come to be?

In the tapestry of life, I've observed varied instances. Some tasks are deemed an individual's responsibility, while others are shared duties. For instance, my father steps into the kitchen to assist my mother, yet it doesn’t diminish her responsibility for the household. Similarly, a male colleague of mine transitioned to a less demanding job to support his wife and family. This doesn’t negate the fact that his wife took a hiatus from her career for three years.

Is it about the tasks themselves, the reasons behind them, or the nature of force or choice that determines responsibility? It seems like a complex interplay of who does what, why it’s done, and whether it’s a voluntary effort or a forced one.

Often, the reluctance to assume responsibility stems from the fear of being held accountable. We shy away from it, not wanting to be proven wrong. It raises the question - what about those who fear being held responsible? They vehemently deny their accountability, finding fault in everything and everyone but themselves.

In some situations, a single person shoulders the entire burden, managing the intricate web of life for everyone involved. It's not just about maturity, understanding, or inherent responsibility. It's about having the courage to be accountable.

Responsibilities seem to be bestowed upon those who feel responsible. If not, we're quick to point fingers at celestial objects, fate, or other external factors. We forget that, in the end, it's our choices, actions, and the bravery to accept responsibility that truly define us.

Checklist

Hum jaise hi subah uthathe hain ek task list open ho jaati hai humare dimag mein. Jismein kuch tasks routine wale hote hain aur kuch naye. Aur ghaadi ki move hoti hue sueyon k sath hum uss tasks se bhri checklist mein tick krne lg jaate hain. Kabhi checklist time se pehle complete ho jaati hai toh kabhi kuch tasks next day carry forward ho jaate hain. Aur hum bindas apne din, hafte, mahiney aur saal uss checklist k peeche nikal dete hain.

Aur hadd hum tab krte hain jab hum apne logon ko tasks ki tarah treat krne lgte h. Jaise koi demarcation raha hi naa ho kaam aur logon mein. GF ko 6 months anniversary pe surprise dena hai, dad ko instalment ka reminder, mom ko new location ka update dena hai, husband ko time nikal kr call krna hain. Hum apne hi logon ko tasks notification ka hissa bnane lgte hain. Yeah kitna sahi hai aur kitna galat yeah toh main nhi jaanti. Bus itna jaanti hun ki tasks ko sayad hum next day complete kr skte hain lekin jo humare apne hai unhe sayad humari abhi aur issi waqt zarurat hai. Pyaar hai toh woh tasks list mein kya kar rahe hain. Kyunki kisi ne sahi kaha ki apno k liye waqt nikalna nhi padta unke liye toh haqt hota hi hai.

Definitely not your average

 Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Our entire lives have been shaped by this lie. If it is so true- Taj Mahal won’t be so loved monument by everyone. The whitest white...

Beauty is measured by parameters and scales. The so-called "STANDARDS" of society. A range of fairness from dusky to fair where being fair means being beautiful, so Fair & Lovely became so popular. There must be an average height (average varies based on grooms shortlisted by your parents). Please note that slim is the only STANDARD you need to maintain. That's how BEAUTY is viewed.

Education/ It is merely an add-on. It's good to have, but it's not a necessity. Your dreams are hardly going to make a difference to the person whom you are going to marry. The belief system says that aspirational women do not make good mothers.

Welcome to the world of HIGH ATTITUDE if you're a rebel on denial mode. You'll hear things like are you waiting for prince charming or are you going to compromise. Whenever you don't feel valued, "NO" is the answer. It is only genuine people who will stay with you if you are kind & humble to yourself as you move forward.

The key to gracefully embracing yourself is acceptance. 

While I accept that I am born with imperfections, I know how to manage my life well. My time has only just begun, and I accept that I am an average looking girl with NOT SO AVERAGE dreams. I accept that I am in my 30's & deny the timeline imposed by others. 

VERY SOON, YOU WILL SEE ME FLYING.

वक्त

 वक्त कुछ यु सिला देता है रिश्ते निभाने में, 

कि चंद पल लगते है, जान से अनजान हो जाने में।। 

Rukhsat-e-pehlu

Shab-e-ulfat-e-rukhsat ki daad kya dijiye.. Unke aane ki khushi manaye yaa jaane ka gam!!

Kyun

Kyun har baar ek sawal teri aakhein keh jaati hain.. 

Jab jawab jaante ho toh sawal puchte kyun ho...